Now more than ever it is harder to stick in a monogamous relationship, yes I said it. Especially if you’re a man with a high mate value. But not all hopes are lost.

There are couples who are at par in terms of mate value in the beginning of the relationship but women’s mate value wanes a lot sooner than men and a competent man enjoys an increase in mate value as time goes by.

A weak man with a high mate value will find it next to impossible to stick in a relationship or remain faithful. A strong man understands the situation and doesn’t fall prey to this romantic hedonistic treadmill.

Weak men focus on pleasure seeking, the hottest chic on social media, they’re so insecure that for them the physical appearance of their partner is the ultimate determinant of their social status among their peers.

Strong men focus on lineage, legacy and integrity. They know what they want and the attraction towards other women is ephemeral and a challenge against their integrity and self respect.

Strong men value loyalty and provide loyalty in return. Great men don’t cheat.

If you’re a woman, be careful not to settle for a man with a lesser mate value relative to yours for it is not a guarantee of a strong moral character. Just because he’s ugly doesn’t mean he’ll be faithful. Ugly men with high mate value partners will develop a diluted ego especially if they have the monetary means to act on it.

Slowly but surely the world is feeling the full swing negative effect of the accessibility brought by technology and social media and dating apps in particular.

Life is a two edged blade, it’s inevitable. Even good times create weak men.

Our capability to see and communicate with each other beyond our physical environment never existed in nature. Unconsciously because of our new found power, we were exposed to the unlimited number of potential mates regardless if they’re with our league or not. What makes it worse is when we see someone we find inferior to us in terms of mate value getting lucky and with someone we consider to be out of our league.

Labels like boyfriend and girlfriend or husband and wife are man made ideas. Labels will never prevent anyone from admiring and desiring someone from the opposite sex.

Law of diminishing marginal utility

Attraction wanes overtime but it can be rekindled.

Pro tip: If you notice that the fire is out in your relationship, create an artificial scarcity. Create an agreement with your partner to work on yourselves to be physically desirable again.

If you’re in your 50s and beyond, if you have a partner and you’re attracted to other people outside your relationship, remember that you’re gonna die soon and to focus on sexual desires will be a waste of time and will prove to the world that you’re a dumb fuck.

It’ll be more honorable to leave a relationship after doing everything you can to salvage it before starting a new one with someone else than to cheat your way to satisfy your physical needs.

There’s nothing wrong with having more than one partner, polyamorous relationships exist.

Problems arise when a weak person pretends to be monogamous to get the other person he/she is attracted to,just to cheat around when the law of diminishing marginal utility takes effect. Worst is when people don’t know what they want and use other people for their trial and error.